The Power of the Kind Word
Friday, April 9th, 2010Among the millions of theories on management, there are a scarce few that are universally accepted. There are two I hear repeatedly.

The first is that people join companies, but quit managers. Your company might have great products, compensation and work environment, but a toxic manager will undo all that good and damage the company. The second theory is that it is always best to hire people with good attitudes because you can teach skills, but not attitude.
There should be a third one: that how you treat people will always be reflected in their performance. Treat them well and good things happen. Treat them poorly and look out.
It’s hard to imagine a movie that could better offer a lesson on that theory than the critically acclaimed and Oscar nominated “Precious: Based on the Novel Push by Sapphire.” This riveting picture reminds us once again that people rise or fall to the level of the expectations they are given and the way they are treated.
“Precious” is quite simply an uplifting, yet brutal movie to watch. Its main character, Precious, is an obese, functionally illiterate inner city teenager who is pregnant for the second time. And it gets worse. Both pregnancies are the result of being raped by her father and her mother is complicit in her mistreatment, abusing her emotionally, physically and sexually. (Mo’Nique’s performance of the mother is riveting and completely justifies her Oscar for best supporting actress in this film.)
Every scene between the mother and daughter paints a horrific picture of home life and there is absolutely no reason to believe that Precious’s life will amount to anything. In fact, it’s hard to believe her life will last far beyond her teens.
But three people see something more in Precious. First, her math teacher understands that the obese, overage girl in his middle school class is not an imbecile. Precious barely reads, but she understands math and the teacher passes his findings on to the school administrator. That administrator also gets involved and recommends that Precious switch to an alternative school that might better support her needs.
The teacher in the alternative school provides Precious the encouragement that has been absent her entire life. Calling the girl by her given name, Claireece, the teacher provides her a new start with new skills and new challenges. And with that background, Precious thrives, growing academically and emotionally. Incredibly, this brutally raw movie that will make you turn away in pain at times, manages to end in hope and optimism.
And there is our management lesson. Many of us have had associates or co-workers who simply seem disinterested in the job. Many of us have been through the painful process of poor performance reviews or even dismissals. And many times those actions have been entirely justified. Sadly, life isn’t a Hollywood picture where kind words and deeds always turn someone’s life around.
Yet, “Precious” reminds us that our words and attitudes matter. If we treat an associate as an incompetent, the likely result is poor work. Sadly, we will get what we expect. In contrast, if we treat people with respect and understanding and if we remember that words of encouragement must always outnumber criticisms, we might see the kind of response we seek.
A number of years ago, a good friend of mine was hired as the chief technology officer for a Fortune 50 company. On taking the job he was told that his staff was underperforming and that change (possibly firing the entire group) was necessary. Before taking action he decided to meet with the staff to get a sense of the situation.
What he learned was that many of the people on his team had seen their jobs expand as technology became more important at the company. As that happened a number of them found themselves working outside their areas of competence and experience. Plus, they knew they were failing. By taking an open attitude with them, my friend was able to undo much of the damage. The staff was realigned and within six months the underperforming department seemed virtually reborn even though he did not replace a single person.
It’s a story to keep in mind. One more regular piece of management advice is that attitude will determine altitude. That is, people won’t fly if their spirits are crushed. “Precious” gives us a brutal, yet compelling example of how this works and the lesson is painfully important.
When it comes to people: what you reap is certainly what you sow. “Precious” reminds us to daily think about how our words do that sowing and reaping.
Michael Sansolo is the co-author, with “Content Guy” Kevin Coupe, of the new book, “The Big Picture: Essential Business Lessons From The Movies,” available by clicking here .
Michael Sansolo can be reached via email at msansolo@morningnewsbeat.com .


